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I was talking to a friend yesterday about wants.  Wanting and getting.  Wanting and not getting. 

Now this could be anything…a job, money, a love interest, baby….anything.  We talked about those who get things “easier” than others.  Those that seem to glide effortlessly through life.  Those not feeling that want, at least on the surface.  Then there are those that have to “work” for everything.  Things may not come quick or easy. 

 I have had to work and want.  But, I have been lucky in my endeavors and trials.  I have never had things handed to me, but I have never felt pain from a want.  Kind of in the middle.

So….do you think that wanting makes the end sweeter?  Does having to work and maybe even cry over what you want so bad make it MORE in the end.  I am not sure.  Really.  But, for me I am in a way glad I have had the cards I was dealt.  Wanting and striving has developed my character, my being.  So maybe that’s what’s it for.

Ever think our lives are training us, molding us into what we are to become.  Maybe some of us have to wait to build patience.  Maybe some of us have to cry to develop a thicker skin for later on?  Again not sure.

Would happiness be as joyful without pain?  Do you think you would appreciate that  ’A’  without having to work at at? 

I think we are never given more than what we can handle, as corny as it sounds.  Maybe this is why every path is different.  Now I know it’s not fair how some peoples lives turn out, one bad misfortune after another….I wish I knew why….but again does it make that one glimmer shine brighter? 

 Then there are those we glare at possibly with a green eye….those that seem to have it all.  But, honestly maybe they don’t.  Maybe they want what we have….maybe they want.  As bad as we may feel things are, as bad as we may feel like life is not fair…we want!   But then….the person behind you may look at you and want…want what you have, want what you have been given.

I cannot imagine my life any other way.  I hate not getting things easier.  But maybe I am not supposed to.  Now I don’t mean to say that I appreciate things more than others that may get things “easier”, this is again my interpretation.  Without that want every so often, how are we supposed to feel that pride of accomplishment, that joy, the inspiration?

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”  (Shaw)